My husband and I fight fairly frequently. It’s always over something stupid and it always resolves itself rather quickly. I’m okay with this.
In fact, I find it odd when I encounter couples that say they “never fight” or are always posting sweet nothings about their husband on Facebook. (I do not identify with this phenomenon.)
So while our fights tend to blow over quickly, I’d still prefer to not have them. They stress me out, and that’s the kids’ job…not my husband’s.
When I saw that Real Housewife of New York Bethenny Frankel released a relationship book, I snorted. She is going through a high-profile, messy, expensive divorce after being married for only a few years. Where does she get off telling anyone how to conduct a successful relationship?
Then I saw the title of her book– I Suck at Relationships So You Don’t Have To: 10 Rules for Not Screwing Up Your Happily Ever After.
Okay. Maybe she has a point. She certainly does seem to suck at relationships, so I guess if one learns what NOT to do from her…the theory is that one would have a lasting, happy relationship (unlike Bethenny herself).
So, out of curiosity, I purchased the book. After reading only the first few pages, I was pleasantly surprised.
In Chapter 1, “Understand the Man,” there was a list of “Things men don’t care about.” On that list was “the emotional thing that happened to you today” and “what any of your friends said about anything” and “what restaurant you are going to, or what you are going to make for dinner (unless it’s something they don’t like).”
I almost started laughing out loud, because so many times I have tried discussing these things with my husband only to be met with silence. WHY DOESN’T HE CARE WHERE WE ARE GOING TO EAT OR WHAT I’M MAKING FOR DINNER?! Like, how is that even possible?
After that I was like, alright Bethenny. I’ll give this a whirl, since what you’re saying seems to be legit.
For the next month, I’m going to apply the ten rules Bethenny preaches…one at a time, starting a new one every three days. The first rule is “Understand the Man.” I’ll be reading up (with a glass of wine), taking notes, and applying it to my relationship with my husband. And then reporting back to you all. (Although I guess I should be drinking a Skinnygirl Margarita instead of a Pinot Grigio.)
It will be like when I did The Melissa Gorga Experiment. Remember that? #blastfromthepast #WWMGD
Follow along with me as I test out Bethenny’s rules and see if my marriage improves. Maybe I’ll even end up with a $160 million business deal like Bethenny. Or, also like Bethenny, maybe I’ll wind up divorced and starring on my fifth reality show.