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Unrelated: I need help with a parenting issue.
This is unrelated to drinking and sobriety, although I guess technically, it’s an issue in my life that’s causing me stress, so maybe it IS related.
Whatever– I need help.
I can’t seem to get my six-year-old out the door in the mornings without a battle.
We are less than a month into the new school year and every day starts with tears.
I have tried everything.
I have let her sleep later. I have woken her up earlier.
I have let her watch TV shows. I have banned TV shows.
I offer her at least 3-4 breakfast options that she likes.
She has picked out her clothing the night before (and then refused to wear it in the morning).
She has picked an outfit out in the morning.
It doesn’t matter what we do, she always cries and complains about going to school.
Here is the current routine we are trying:
When I remember, I have her pick out her outfit the night before. However, this only works about 50% of the time.
She often will change her mind in the morning and struggle to find something “perfect.”
She thinks she needs her tops and bottoms to be the same color so that they match.
She also hates to wear sneakers, which she has to wear for gym class on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays.
In the morning, she will either come into my room when she wakes up (if it’s earlier than 6:30) or I will get her up by 6:30.
Her bus comes at 7:06 and it’s literally right at the end of our driveway.
I would prefer that she get dressed right after she wakes up (before coming downstairs), but she likes to either bring her clothes downstairs or get dressed after eating breakfast.
But yet when I ask her what she wants to eat, she whines that she doesn’t know.
So it’s like…I don’t care if you get dressed or eat first, but just do SOMETHING. Know what I mean?
I have also instituted a no TV before school policy in the past week. This really bothers her and is a frequent cause for complaint in the morning, as well.
She will spend at least 10-15 minutes complaining or crying or whining about not knowing what to wear or not knowing what to eat, and then it’s time for me to start yelling because we are getting down to the wire.
At this point she has about ten minutes left to dress, eat, brush her teeth, and get out the door.
At least three times in the past week she has not had time to eat her breakfast. I’ve had to make her brush her teeth and then eat her food while she’s waiting outside.
Even when she’s outside, she’s still upset. She doesn’t want her friends coming over to her or anyone to talk to her.
Some days she will tell me she doesn’t want to go to school at all or she wants me to drive her.
But I’m not going to drive her, because then she will ask me to do that every day. Which is silly, considering the bus stop is right in front of our house.
When I ask her why she doesn’t want to go to school, she doesn’t have a reason, just that she wants to spend time with me. I tell her we can do that after school.
The bus comes, I send her off with a hug, but at that point I feel like the morning has already been ruined. For her and for me.
The bus pulls away with her on it, and I am relieved, yet I know it will just repeat tomorrow.
What am I doing wrong?
I am seriously at my wit’s end here.
I’m currently considering these options:
- Home-schooling her.
- Sending her to boarding school.
- Driving her in.
I’m mostly joking about those options, but I am getting desperate.
I’d love to hear from people who have faced similar battles and how they handled them.