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My old attitude towards having a drink used to be…Why not?
On Sunday morning we packed the kids into the car and went to Costco for some grocery shopping.
As is usually the problem with meat or produce I buy there, the pack of ribs we bought to grill for dinner was way too big for our family of five.
So I invited my neighbor and her family to join us.
We sat and chatted before dinner was ready and I offered her a glass of wine, which she declined.
We both opted for seltzer (but I put it in wine glasses).
Now I’m not sure if my friend really didn’t want any wine or if she was just having seltzer to support me not drinking, but either way, it got me thinking…
Back when I was drinking too much and too often, an occasion like this would have resulted in a 100% chance of me (and my friend) drinking wine.
Having a friend over for dinner = wine.
Having a friend over to watch a TV show = wine.
Having a friend stop by to chat for five minutes = wine.
The default attitude for deciding whether or not to have a drink was, Why not?
I’m thinking that instead of asking myself “Why not?”, I should be asking myself “Why?”
Why should we have a glass of wine right now?
Is it a special occasion?
Would it enhance the meal?
Will it quench my thirst?
Am I really stressed out and would wine help that?
Because when it comes down to it, I can come up with all sorts of excuses for why I should have a drink.
But I can come up with just as many reasons for why I shouldn’t.
Most of these times where I defaulted to wine, it wasn’t necessary.
My night would have gone on just fine without it. Plus I would have felt better in the morning.
So…doesn’t that tell me all I need to know?
The dinner with my friend ended up perfectly lovely and I didn’t even miss having wine.
To be honest, I don’t even like tasting wine when I’m eating dinner.
I’d much prefer to have milk or water with my food.
I think the lesson today is an important one to remember– that I want my default to be NOT having wine every night.
Now that I have proven that I don’t “need” it, it will be easier to follow through on actually doing it.