I will preface this post by saying that I have a headache, I’m tired, and I’m cranky.
I just opened a brand-new bag of special Valentine’s Peanut M&Ms and ate almost half of it. This is the third bag of “potty treats” I’ve bought for my two-year-old and eaten myself. (In my defense- she is refusing to go on the potty anyway, so it’s not like we need them…and I don’t want them to spoil.)
Anyway, we got my daughter’s Two-Year-Old Progress Report from her school today. It didn’t really tell me anything I didn’t know already, except that apparently she doesn’t know her own first name or what a triangle is. (I assure you, she does.)
The report also said that she is a pleasure to have in class. This also didn’t surprise me, because other than her toddler tantrums, my child is generally well-behaved.
Lately, I have been getting annoyed when people (family or friends, but usually my family) insist on my daughter saying “please” before everything.
At home, she says “please,” “thank you,” and “you’re welcome” about 80% of the time, and always unprompted. When we are out at a family function, my daughter tends to clam up. So maybe she won’t say “Please can I have a cookie?” Instead, she will just nod her head yes.
Then someone will say to her: “Say please!” This will be met with silence.
“Say please!” More silence.
“You have to say please if you want the cookie.” Still more silence.
Then I intervene: “Oh would you just give her the cookie for Christ’s sake? She’s two.”
Obviously I want my daughter to have proper manners, but should she be expected to say please every single time she receives something…as a two-year-old??
I feel like she is badgered to say “please” in situations where even adults don’t usually say it. If you bring someone a gift, do you require them to say please before handing it to them? I hope not.
Any time my sister gives my daughter anything, I hear “Say please!” over and over and over and over.
That’s it. That’s my rant. It’s not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, it’s just something that has been bugging me.
And while I’m already complaining, here’s one more to add: what is with Ben & Jerry’s having special “Limited Edition” flavors? Why can they only produce “Magic Brownies,” (the greatest flavor to ever grace this earth) for a limited time? Is there a shortage of black raspberry ice-cream or fudgey brownie pieces?
It’s been two years now since I’ve seen a pint of Magic Brownies in the store. But I still check every time I go!
So…let me have it! Should I be forcing my daughter to say please constantly? Or are my family members too demanding of a toddler?
And does anyone else feel my pain about Magic Brownies?