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ACK! It’s a Newborn!

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Ack! It's a Newborn!

Some people love the newborn stage. I am not one of those people.

Sure, they are cute and tiny and they tend to sleep a lot.

But personally, I’d rather just fast forward to around three months when things have settled down a bit.

I’m only 21 weeks pregnant and already having the typical new mom fears about the hospital stay and the ensuing newborn weeks.

My nervousness starts with anticipation of giving birth.

Not like the physical act of giving birth– that I’m cool with, thanks to epidurals. I literally felt nothing from the waist down for the previous two births. Just how modern medicine intended.

What I freak out about is the other things associated with the hospital stay. The IV (gag me). When they take the baby away from you for hours to do testing and checkups. The circumcision! Oh God, the circumcision. When I found out I was having another boy, that was the first thing I thought of. I hated being there in my hospital bed, knowing where they were carting my little guy off to.

I always beg the doctors to let me out of the hospital early. One night instead of two, please!

Then I get home and it sinks in that I’m never going to sleep again. Being awake by yourself to feed a newborn in the middle of the night (several times) is so isolating and scary.

Maybe you will have help from a family member for  few days or a week, but then that first day your husband goes back to work, you trip over a blanket while holding your one-week-old and you both fall down. (Or was that just me?) Thankfully, it’s just a little bump and you are both okay.

But it just reaffirms to you how scary those first few weeks can be. And you know what? I was shocked, because no one told me that the first month can be hellish.

All I heard was that it’s so great and you fall in love with your baby at first sight and motherhood is amazing and breastfeeding is wonderful and butterflies and fairy dust fly out of the baby’s butts when they poop.

No one told me that it’s frustrating and emotional and exhausting (well, okay maybe I did hear that one) and that sometimes breastfeeding isn’t so wonderful.

Still, you power through that stage and only a year or two later find yourself looking at two naughty little kids tossing items out of your Target shopping cart and thinking how much easier it was when they were newborns…



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  • Laura
    September 24, 2014 at 7:31 AM

    From my experience and what I’ve heard from others is that #3 comes fast and furious!!! It’s good because it’s all over with quickly but, on the other hand, you have no time for epidural or the doctor to show up (or maybe that’s just me?). It’s also nice to come home and your older kids need you a little less because they have each other. labor and delivery STILL scare me. And I also dread the IV. I called my OBGYN to ask him to release me early a and I’m blessed to be friends with my ped-who came to visit me in the hosp (not on business) and she talked to the on-call dr to tell them we could go and she would check in on us-I HATE the hosp! Also, my hosp has a “new” policy where they don’t take babies to the nursery at night anymore and they tell you to be naked when nursing. I told them where they could shove that idea! Seriously, if I’m not sleeping at the hospital then why keep people?!?

    • Lindsay
      September 24, 2014 at 9:05 AM

      I know! I get ZERO sleep when I’m at the hospital, which is why I beg to be released early. Naked when nursing?! WTF. LOL. I am picturing myself laying naked head to toe in bed nursing while doctors walk in. I assume you mean topless? But still. I wear a nursing shirt or just open my gown. I have wondered a lot if the baby comes so fast that you give birth at home, would I even have to go to hospital and check in?! I’m only half-kidding. Ideal situation: go to hospital, get epidural, have baby, doctors check baby, do tests, etc. and then give him to me to take home later that day. Boom!

      • laura
        September 24, 2014 at 2:16 PM

        My friend, who is also my ped recommended being verbal with my OBGYN that i wanted to be released early from hospital before the baby was due so he knew the deal. He explained that I only need to stay if there is a problem with me or baby. The nurse at the hospital said to be verbal that you will HAVE HELP at home because they get scared to release you back into the chaos…or some BS! My girlfriend delivered her 2nd in the car on the way to the hospital – and the nurses/dr came out to car when her hubby pulled up to the ER. OMG – I couldn’t imagine!

        • Lindsay
          September 24, 2014 at 2:35 PM

          Yes I do tell them right away that I want to be released early and it’s usually never a problem.

  • Sarah Donza-Hughes
    September 24, 2014 at 11:55 PM

    You will be great! I feared birth so much the first time but the second I was way more calm because I was having a scheduled C section.

    • Lindsay
      September 25, 2014 at 3:51 PM

      Thanks, Sarah 🙂

  • Stephanie
    September 24, 2014 at 8:50 PM

    It’s like you read my mind with this post! I’m 19 weeks with baby number 2 and all I can think about are those hellish first three months. But now with the added joy of a high maintenance 22 month old underfoot too! I’m petrified. Please tell me 2 isn’t that much worse than one! (I swear I am excited. I’m just having a freak out moment!)

    • Lindsay
      September 25, 2014 at 3:51 PM

      NO, two is not much worse than one. And come to think of it, you’re so distracted by the older kid that the first 3 months aren’t as bad as the first time around. Less scary, less unknown! You’ll do fine 🙂