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I’m playing Devil’s Advocate here to examine whether DeMario is as bad as we think…
It only took two episodes for the “villain” on this season of The Bachelorette to emerge. Unlike seasons past, though, this villain was revealed and removed swiftly thereafter.
While it remains to be seen if he actually stays gone (as we’ve seen in previews for tonight’s episode, he arrived back at the mansion to try to plead his case to Rachel), I’m guessing that he will.
But is that the right choice?
Is what DeMario did really that bad?
I’m going to walk you through my reasoning, because I really don’t feel like his “crime” is any different than what most of us would have done in his situation.
So let’s say you are DeMario last year.
You’re in a relationship that isn’t all that serious. Your girlfriend (and perhaps you use that term loosely) seems a bit on the crazy side.
Still, you’re hesitant to break up with her, because you’ve got no better options at the moment.
Then you hear that Rachel Lindsay is going to be the new Bachelorette. You think she’s gorgeous and you know they are casting for the show.
You know that you have a girlfriend, but you also know that it’s not a forever thing. You try out and win a spot as a contestant.
Should you tell your girlfriend right away that it’s over? OF COURSE. But you don’t.
The producers call you up and ask you to be on After the Final Rose when the first four guys are introduced to Rachel. It’s at this point that you realize you’re kind of in deep sh*t.
Instead of giving your girlfriend the heads up, you let her find out on national television that you’re now a contestant on The Bachelorette.
Yes, this seems bad. But how many of us wouldn’t have ditched a dead-end relationship for a chance to be with our dream husband/wife?
I probably would have done the same thing if I was in a stagnant, casual, or just crappy relationship and the opportunity came up for me to be on The Bachelor when someone like, say, NICK VIALL was the lead. (If I wasn’t married, I mean.)
I definitely think DeMario should have broken things off with his girlfriend rather than just ghosting on her, but honestly? That chick did not look like the type you want to break up with, on good terms OR on bad terms.
She seemed a little bit psycho if you ask me!
So this outrage over what DeMario did seems a little unwarranted.
I’m not sure that I would have kept him around either, but don’t act like you just found out he murdered someone. Kick him off the show and move on.